Listen To Rabbi Marcia

"Known for her bluesy voice (she used to sing in a black gospel choir), Rappaport is an equal-opportunity officiant: She leads Jewish, interfaith, civil, and gay weddings, with prices based on the couple’s finances. She likes to host an “appreciation meeting” to remind them that their big day is about much more than just partying. She appreciates as much notice as possible."
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Inspiration and Support
“Rituals exist to give meaning and context to our lives.” says Rabbi Marcia Grappa. Your decision to marry touches everyone’s life. “When you decide to get married, your love flows out to everyone in your community, inviting them to become witnesses to that love. At your wedding, your community surrounds you with support, and that presence gives more strength to your vows.”

The ceremony tells the world what your love means and where you want it to go, “so it’s also a blueprint for your relationship,” says Rabbi Rappaport. “Your vows speak of your hopes and dreams for your life together. And by exchanging vows and choosing to marry in the presence of your family and friends, it becomes a communal experience.”

As you recite your vows, “you’re expressing the heart and soul of your commitment, the promises weaving together the fabric of your lives. It is the moment that gives the whole wedding its very meaning. It’s also the moment when the spiritual, cultural, religious, and legal aspects all meet.” Rabbi Rappaport describes the vows as almost magical ritual. “It’s a true transformation: two people are becoming family in front of their witnesses and guests."

If you choose to write your own vows, she helps you identify the unique qualities that define you and your relationship, and then give unique expression to those qualities.

"There is no right or wrong way to write vows," says Rabbi Rappaport. "They can be traditional, non -traditional, or a combination. The only requirement is that your vows come from your heart, and that they resonate with both of you."

As inspiration for writing your vows, Rabbi Rappaport encourages her brides and grooms to look at poetry, books, and lines from their favorite songs. "Most importantly, think about the qualities you love in the other person."

As a child, Rabbi Rappaport accompanied her father to temple and was fascinated by the chanting and emotionalism of the services. "I also discovered black gospel music! That form gave me permission to express the joy of spirit, and I wanted to bring that spirit back to my community."

"I identify with all aspects of Judaism, and I also serve as a co-officiant for interfaith couples. My role is to bring communities together."

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In Marcia's Words
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